Britney’s Love Lesson Number One

November 15th, 2006 by Nina Atwood

Date someone with character, first and foremost. How do we know that Kevin is lacking in the “character gene”? When Kevin was doing backup in Britney’s band, his girlfriend at the time, Char Jackson, was pregnant with their second child. He quickly dumped her the moment Britney showed romantic interest in him. When Kevin and Britney married, Char had not yet given birth. I wonder what Kevin’s relationship with his first two children is like today? Clearly, he failed to do the right thing with Char, a strong indicator to Britney that when push comes to shove, he’s not mature enough to accept responsibility for his actions and choices. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and Britney ignored all the signs that she was choosing someone with grade school maturity.

What can we learn from Britney’s path? Develop a strong “chooser” – your ability to discern truth from fiction, fairy tale fantasy from reality, and good character from charm and charisma. One of the most important decisions a woman makes in her life is her choice of life partner. Make a bad one, and you’ll have heartache for years, even decades. Britney won’t escape the responsibility of dealing with Kevin – she has two children with him. She will be tied to him for the rest of her life because of the reality of co-parenting their kids.

Make a good decision about your life partner, and you have a powerful platform from which to grow and develop who you are in life. Good love is energizing and uplifting. With it, you easily become the best you that you can be. It’s no coincidence that just as she’s announcing her divorce, rumors of a “Britney comeback” abound. When a woman finally gets out of a bad relationship and moves on, her energy naturally rebounds. She moves back into her real self, leaving behind the repressed self that she had to be in order to live with a wrong partner. Contrary to popular belief, however, that repression of the true self isn’t forced on most women. Unfortunately, we choose it out of “commitment hunger” that drives us to rush into a relationship that’s not right from the beginning. The answer to all this is to choose wisely and carefully on the front end and be willing to move on quickly from a dating relationship that doesn’t point to a wonderful future in every way. Tomorrow’s Britney Love Lesson will show us more about that.

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