Update on Katie and Tom

 By Nina Atwood

After a year of marriage and lots of life change, Katie Holmes is still gushing about her new husband, Tom Cruise. Add to that the stress of having their first child, and you have a marriage that could be going off the rails. Instead, it seems to be doing quite well.

Katie and Tom rolled the dice a couple of years ago, rushing into a committed relationship and parenthood without spending any time in courtship and discovery. This is equivalent to going to Las Vegas, putting all your money on one number, and rolling the roulette wheel. The odds of your number coming up as a winner are slim. Likewise, when couples rush into marriage, they put themselves counter to the odds. A far wiser plan is to spend time enjoying the joys of courtship, getting to know each other slowly without sex. Over time, your compatibility for the long haul is revealed. You also have the opportunity to build a strong foundation of open, honest communication and the resulting emotional muscle. Then, if you experience difficult times ahead, you are prepared to weather them.

Does this mean that short courtships cannot lead to good, strong marriages? Clearly not, as Katie and Tom’s marriage seems to testify. But keep in mind that they had resources most of us don’t have – unlimited wealth to buy all of the needed help, to name one. Financial issues are one of the top stressors that undo quick marriages, so the absence of that issue would give any couple a boost. In the credit column for Tom and Katie, they seem to have scored high in the compatibility quotient.

You can be happy for Katie and Tom, but you don’t have to follow their dating example. There’s plenty of time ahead of you for a happy marriage and parenthood. For now, take your time getting to know the person you’re enraptured with. Give yourself a good, strong foundation. You’ll never regret that.

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Helene  |  December 18th, 2007 at 2:45 pm

    I couldn’t agree more! Unfortunately though, it’s often hard to put the breaks on during the lustful initial phases of a relationship, with major decisions being made when our heads are on Cloud 9.

    The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide

  • 2. Haley Dilworth  |  January 30th, 2012 at 7:56 pm

    Looking forward to reading more. Great blog article. Want more.

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