David writes: My ex-girlfriend and I met on Myspace, emailed for a week, phoned for a week, then met for dinner and a walk. We dated for two and a half weeks, walking along the beach holding hands. Then she blew me off, saying it was just a friendship and she didn’t have time for [...]
Continue Reading Add comment March 31st, 2010
As discussed in previous blogs, there is really no reason why two people can’t fall in love even with a significant gap in age. But seeking someone specifically because of the gap in age is not far from seeking someone because of money, looks, or social status. At the end of the day, there’s an [...]
Continue Reading Add comment March 29th, 2010
Dear Nina: I have started seeing this girl recently. She works full time but is also a part time student. We had a great first date, staying out to 2am on a week night just talking and our conversation only stopped because it started to rain. I followed up a couple days later by asking her out on a [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 5th, 2010
Dear Nina: As a single 42 year old male in Dallas, I have found this to be the single most frustrating aspect of dating, especially among women who are a bit older. I understand that women don’t want to hurt a man’s feelings. Wouldn’t it be better to say to man you are not attracted [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment February 1st, 2010
Mike, newly divorced and getting out into the dating scene, made this remark: “I’ve learned not to be too nice to women. For instance, if I see a woman’s profile on Match.com and I send her a disparaging remark, I get a response, usually something like ‘You just need to get to know me better.’ [...]
Continue Reading Add comment July 31st, 2008
Dear Nina: I’m in the radio business, married to my job for ten years and moving from city to city. It’s difficult to date because of my schedule. Also, I’m insecure when I’m not in front of the mic. I am drawn to the Barbies – the really beautiful ones, though I feel insecure around [...]
Continue Reading Add comment June 24th, 2008
In my past two blogs on pursuing and taking the lead for men, I provided a guide for the art of courtship, which is rapidly disappearing from our culuture yet still needed by women. When I wrote Be Your Own Dating Service, I still held the belief that it made no difference who pursued. In fact, I believed, it was [...]
Continue Reading 3 comments May 4th, 2008
Confusion abounds when it come to the roles of leader and follower in the dance of dating. The thousands of emails I’ve received over the years from single men and women are full of inquiries about what to do in the early stages of dating. Women want to know: Is it okay to call a [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment March 11th, 2008
Dear Nina: I have dated a good amount of women in the past 9 months – online dating. There have been a few who I would have liked to pursue more but I have been rejected. I usually get rejected on date 4 (I guess the sex date). Women often say they simply “aren’t feeling [...]
Continue Reading Add comment January 27th, 2008
Brad, a forty-something single guy, set up a fake female profile on a popular dating web site. He deliberately used strong language such as – “If you’re the kind of guy who calls women up and asks ‘so, what do you want to do tonight?’ don’t bother.” He stated “no girly men.” Brad wanted to [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 14th, 2007
She accepts dates, but often cancels at the last minute with lame excuses. She says pick her up at 7:00, but makes you wait until 8:00 while she dresses (and drinks her first two glasses of wine). She returns your kisses and sleeps with you, then doesn’t return your calls for the next two weeks. [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 2nd, 2007
On Monday night’s episode of The Bachelor, Brad had the arduous task of meeting all four womens’ families. At the end, he sent Sheena home, to her surprise and dismay. Earlier, Sheena had gushed about how wonderful their connection was, convinced that Brad was falling in love with her. And why not? After all, he gave [...]
Continue Reading Add comment October 31st, 2007
Max has difficulty with women. He’s cute and charming, so he never has trouble getting women to go out with him. Once they do, however, the problems start. The women he falls for always have issues the he feels compelled to try and fix. He exhausts himself trying to get their lives to work at [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment September 7th, 2007
You can’t rehabilitate a wounded girl by loving her. James found out the hard way through two years of turmoil with Brianna. She was gorgeous, even did some modeling at one point. But what really sucked James in was her pain. Brianna had a long history of abuse that began in childhood and continued with [...]
Continue Reading 2 comments July 17th, 2007
Are you a guy who treats women with respect? Are you a guy who understands the value of courtship, who rolls out the full-court-press when you’re intentional about a woman? Have you done so in the past, only to be treated with some or all of the following: You plan ahead, call ahead, make reservations, [...]
Continue Reading Add comment June 12th, 2007
If you want to stand out in the dating scene guys, a good place to start is to pay attention to your first date behavior. The following are things NOT to do if you want to impress a woman. These examples come from real dating stories, believe it or not. If you want to impress a [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment April 17th, 2007
Dating is relating. The way you date and pursue a woman today has everything to do with how successful you will be in marriage. If your goal is to meet and marry a beautiful, loving woman, start today with shaping your behavior to maximize your success. Do these things and you’ll stand out in the [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment March 1st, 2007
Kissing for the first time is a significant step in a relationship. I don’t mean the lip peck or the cheek peck; I mean full-blown, lips and tongues, passionate kissing, the kind that melts paint. Guys need to know when the timing is right for that first kiss, and the precussor to right timing is [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 28th, 2007
Rebecca couldn’t believe her date with Joe ended so badly. He did many things right, but the one thing he did wrong overshadowed everything else. It was cold that night, so they left the restaurant and agreed to sit in her car for a few minutes to wind down their conversation. Suddenly, he reached over, [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 27th, 2007
