Josh Duhamel, hunky star of Las Vegas, and his girlfriend of three years, singer Stacy “Fergie” Ferguson, seem to be developing a fine romance that may stand the test of time. You never know what really happens behind closed doors, but all the right signs are present. One, Josh gushes about Fergie, saying that although [...]
Continue Reading Add comment July 2nd, 2007
Saronne commented that Andy and Tessa’s goal to live together in Hawaii was ill-advised. Turns out she’s right. Most studies indicate that living together before marriage does not increase a couple’s odds of success (i.e., “testing” the relationship before marraige) and may even lessen them. The problems with living together prior to marriage include: Often [...]
Continue Reading Add comment May 29th, 2007
In last night’s season finale of The Bachelor, U.S. Navy Lieutenant Andy Baldwin, M.D., made his choice. He proposed to Tessa Horst with a beautiful engagement ring, and she said “yes.” This dramatic moment settled the choice between Tessa and Bevin Powers, the other woman Andy fell in love with (or so he said) during [...]
Continue Reading Add comment May 22nd, 2007
Kellie dated Freddie for seven plus years. He didn’t want to marry, she did. They broke up. He wanted her back. She said “no way without marriage.” He capitulated, they married, and she moved on to her next agenda: having a baby. After three years, they succeeded, and she’s now a single mom. Freddie moved out [...]
Continue Reading Add comment May 15th, 2007
CBS news anchor Katie Couric, age 50, is reportedly dating 33-year-old Brooks Perlin. That’s a seventeen year age difference. Demi Moore and Ashton Kucher have been married for a year and a half. Their age difference is fifteen years. Historically we saw lots of older men dating younger women but increasingly we’re seeing the other dynamic: [...]
Continue Reading 2 comments April 16th, 2007
American Idol contestant Lakisha Jones says that now she’s famous, guys she knew previously call her and try to re-connect. Her response? “Are you kidding me? Baby? I remember you didn’t give me a return phone call. You remember that? Stop calling me, dude. It ain’t happening.’” Lakisha’s bull**** meter is working great! How about [...]
Continue Reading Add comment April 13th, 2007
Paula Abdul reports that she and Simon Cowell, her fellow judge on American Idol, are friends with chemistry. That’s not an unusual phenomenon when two opposite sex people are together in intense situations (such as starring in a hit reality television series). The teasing, the ribbing each other, and the head shaking while the other [...]
Continue Reading Add comment March 16th, 2007
Unless you’ve been on a desert island, you know that last week pop star Britney Spears suffered a personal meltdown. The one good sign for her is that she’s in rehab. If she stays, she has an opportunity to put her life back on track. We can all learn from Britney’s experience by acknowledging a fundamental aspect of [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 26th, 2007
Tom’s baggage: divorce without “due process.” Tom brought a major issue into Katie’s life and how they deal with it will determine their true success in the long haul. It appears that when Tom grew disenchanted with his second (that’s right, second) wife Nicole, he bolted. Nicole says that she was blind-sided. She may have [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 29th, 2006
At the risk of sounding like a hopeless non-romantic (and nothing could be further from the truth!), I must weigh in against all the media hype surrounding the wedding of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes. Yes, they are one gorgeous couple. Yes, their soulful looks, embraces, and kisses in front of the cameras are truly [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 27th, 2006
Dan makes a good point (see comment). If relationships are a mirror, then choosing someone lacking in basic character is, indeed, a reflection on the chooser. But what is it reflecting? There are several possibilities. First, the obvious: both people are missing the character gene (or something else), resulting in a chaotic orientation to life. Two chaotic [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 26th, 2006
The overriding lesson in all of this is slow down! It isn’t popular, it isn’t wildly romantic, but it works. Choosing a life partner is so critical to our well-being, and the consequences of a bad choice are so deep and far-reaching, that we can’t afford to rush the process. Pacing is the answer: in [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 22nd, 2006
If you do divorce, do so with “due process.” With the exception of physical abuse, all couples benefit from a gradual process toward divorce. Speedy divorces side-step the necessity of that magical relationship remedy: open, honest, compassionate communication. Strange, isn’t it, how someone can be good enough to marry and have two children with, yet [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 22nd, 2006
If you do marry fast, put off having children until you see if it gels. Again, the rush to having children, like the rush to marriage, is like spinning that big roulette wheel. This time, though, the consequences are huge and the children pay the price if your number comes up wrong. Study after study [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 17th, 2006
Date first, for a considerable period of time, marry later. Why? Because everyone who’s ever fallen in love knows that the first stage of a relationship, the Enchantment stage, doesn’t last! It’s a great beginning for bonding and intimacy, but when it fades, and all those brain love chemicals fade, then we’re faced with the [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment November 16th, 2006
Date someone with character, first and foremost. How do we know that Kevin is lacking in the “character gene”? When Kevin was doing backup in Britney’s band, his girlfriend at the time, Char Jackson, was pregnant with their second child. He quickly dumped her the moment Britney showed romantic interest in him. When Kevin and [...]
Continue Reading 3 comments November 15th, 2006
Oops, she did it, again. Britney Spears is getting divorced in record time, just weeks after giving birth to her second child with husband Kevin Federline. It’s fast and furious and it has generated a media feeding frenzy, just like her marriage to Federline, and just like her 55 hour marriage to her childhood friend, [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment November 14th, 2006
