Temptations of the Single Girl:
The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid
by Nina Atwood
Find out today – what are the
ten dating traps that every single woman faces? Why have they have stopped you from having a great
relationship with a man in the past? Learn
the secrets to overcoming them so that you can begin today
to claim the happiness – and the man – that you
Written in parable format, Temptations
of the Single Girl is an easy to read and life-changing
book. You’ll breeze through the pages in one to three
sittings, and you will be left with the keys to transforming
your love life into everything you’ve ever dreamed about.
About the book:
Meet Kelly, a charming,
pretty everywoman. She’s successful, intelligent,
financially secure—and notorious for making bad decisions
when it comes to men. As Kelly travels the bumpy road back
to self-care, she sidesteps one emotional rut only to land
squarely in another. But every time she dusts herself off
and gets back into the groove, she comes one step closer to
being an emotionally healthy woman who is ready and able to
welcome true love into her life.
Author Nina Atwood takes us on an inspiring
journey of self-discovery and relationship recovery in this
thoroughly modern fable. Through Kelly’s story, you
too can pinpoint which temptations you must learn to resist
so that you can claim the happiness—and the man—that
Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, has over twenty years experience as a licensed therapist.
She’s written and published three self-help books on
relationship issues, including the highly successful Be
Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and
Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Owl, 1996).
Nina is a media resource on love who is frequently interviewed
in Cosmopolitan, the Wall Street Journal, Men’s Health,
and other periodicals, as well as on numerous regional television
shows and hundreds of radio shows.
Years ago, I was in despair about my love life. I was dealing with
the break-up of a long-term dating relationship. Before that, my
husband of six years left our marriage, so I was also recovering
from a divorce.
One day, I woke up from the fog of grief that consumed
me and began to do some serious soul-searching. I stopped thinking
about all the men in my life and began thinking about the woman
who I saw in my mirror each day. As I reflected, I began to put
together a map and I found a compass for going forward in my life.
Being totally honest with myself, I recognized that
I had created my own suffering by allowing myself to be pulled off
of my true path of love. What caused that? In a nutshell it was the temptation to date men because of qualities
in them that I found attractive, but that did not add up to the
picture of love, devotion, and commitment that I was seeking. Once I realized that I was being tempted in these ways, I created
a whole new game plan for my life, and out of that I met and married
my wonderful husband, Mark. We recently celebrated our 8th anniversary,
so we are way past the “enchantment stage” of our relationship,
and we are more devoted and in love than ever.
Now let me assure you that this didn’t
happen because I got lucky. It happened because I did some serious
re-setting of my own internal compass – what attracted
me, the temptations that had plagued me in the past, the choices
I had made, and the boundaries that defined what was and wasn’t
good for me.
For me, the journey from making some really bad choices
to making better but still poor choices, and finally to making a
really good choice, was long and difficult. Ultimately, I learned
a lot from the journey, and in that sense it served a purpose. So,
I did what any self-respecting author would do – I wrote a
book! I had written and published three previous self-help books,
but this one was different. It kind of wrote itself, and it came
out as a story, so it became a modern day parable – a story
that teaches life lessons.
I firmly believe that one of the most important decisions
a woman ever makes is her choice of life partner. Make a poor
one, and the consequences can be devastating for years, even
decades. Make a good one, and she has a platform for a lifetime
of fulfillment. But it goes even deeper than that.
Each woman is unique, with special gifts and
talents that have the potential to make a significant positive
difference to others. With self-actualization, a woman’s
talents are expressed and the world benefits, whether it’s
in the microcosm of her own family or in the macrocosm of
her community, city, state, or country, and beyond. But it’s
very difficult for a woman to reach her potential, and thus
to contribute her gifts, if she is drained by a toxic relationship.
It is also very difficult in those circumstances for her to
model self-actualization to her daughters. So the world ends
up losing the gifts and talents of generations of women whose
energies are drained in destructive relationships. That is
why it is so important for a woman to choose her life partner
carefully so that she winds up with a man of good character,
with a good heart, with the ability to commit to her, and
who loves her without reserve.
The mission of this book
is to help women self-actualize and be all that they can be. The benefits to societies around the globe when women bring
forth their talents and gifts are immeasurable. I hope with
this book to add to the sum total of women’s contributions
in the world now and for many future generations.
- Nina Atwood
More about the
This is the story of Kelly, a charming, pretty “everywoman.”
She’s smart, successful, financially secure – and notorious
for making bad choices when it comes to men. She wants a great relationship,
she wants a happy marriage and family, but she has to overcome multiple
temptations that pull her off of her path to a wonderful love. You
see, at the start of her story, Kelly has a broken “chooser.”
With the help of her mentor, Martha, she learns to identify and
side-step each of the temptations so that she can choose better
One: Denying Your True Desires
The first temptation that Kelly confronts
is her tendency to set aside whatever lists about the kind of man
or relationship she is seeking whenever she comes face to face with
a hot guy who wants her. If he’s not particularly interested
in commitment – no problem! The next thing she knows, she’s
opening her mouth and agreeing to a “no strings” or
“fun times only” relationship, or just a non-verbal
dating contract that basically says: It’s
okay to drift along with no direction, no stated intentions.
Sound familiar? If so, you, like me and Kelly, have fallen into
the temptation of denying your true desires. Hoping for true love, you go along with a directionless, non-intentional
relationship out of fear of scaring him away. Here’s
the problem: when you don’t clearly state what you are intending,
you give men permission to deliver whatever they feel like delivering,
and that often falls far short of your true desires. The
temptation is to just go with the flow, let it happen the way it
happens, and hope for the best. You deny your
true desires – for love, devotion, commitment, and yes, marriage!
If you’re like Kelly,
you can find yourself in a vicious cycle. You date men without
any direction or commitment, hoping for the best. Eventually, the
relationship is exhausted because you’re trying to get something
that was never there to get. Broken hearted, you move on, but now
you’re more guarded, less trusting.
Like attracts like – so if you are less trusting, you will attract men who are also less
trusting. Now your inner compass is set for even less probability
of attracting real commitment, so you wind up re-creating the same
dysfunctional dynamic. I can’t tell you the number of times
I’ve heard women who have had their hearts broken declare
something along the lines of:
I don’t care about meeting someone to get married.
There aren’t any really good, emotionally available men out
there, and besides, it’s not worth the risk. I will only get
hurt again. So instead, I’ll focus on dating guys for fun,
get my sexual and companionship needs met, and then move on.
If only it were that easy. The reality is that when
you set your inner compass for lack of emotional availability, you
don’t get your needs met. You get more
heartache, more despair, and more journeys through the vicious cycle;
eventually, cynicism sets in.
Here’s a reality check: When
was the last time you talked with your girlfriends about how excited
you are to be out there dating, how many wonderful men there are
to choose from – attractive men of real character, capable
of love, devotion, and commitment?
Sound impossible? If so, you are somewhere in the
vicious cycle of denying your true desires, struggling to get your
needs met with men, failing, and getting your heart broken. But
here’s the reality: other women are meeting and marrying their
soul mates every single day! How can that be if it seems so hard
to you? Because when you are caught in this vicious cycle, you cannot
see a good outcome. You have to begin by taking a leap of faith
that it is possible.
to interrupt this cycle, take a leap of faith, and create
a new path in your life, and Temptations of the Single Girl
offers you the solutions to do that.
Kelly eventually learns about the vicious
cycle – how to spot it and break free. With the help of her
mentor Martha, she learns how she got into the cycle and what will
get her out of it forever. Ultimately, she chooses to identify and
stand up for her true desires. But she fears that the men she dates
will run away from this new, more empowered woman. Thus begins her
up and down journey of self-discovery and recovery. It isn’t
smooth – far from it!
Along the way, Kelly falls into the temptation
of loving a wounded guy. You may recognize this guy –
he’s the one you fall for because he seems so disarming, so
attractive, and so vulnerable on some level. Your loving heart is
drawn to him more and more as he shares his life struggles. You
want to believe that your love will heal him, draw him into a commitment
that he’s been unable to give other women before you.
Kelly soon discovers that the problem with the wounded
guy is that when it is time to make a commitment, he crumbles. Using
his past experiences, his addictions, and his broken psyche as excuses,
he backs away from commitment, hooking you into a push-pull relationship
dynamic that keeps you off-balance, drains you, and leads nowhere.
Kelly learns to identify wounded guys early (within the first few
dates or weeks) and how to effectively and gently push those relationships
to a powerful point of choice. On the other side of those choices
she experiences an exhilarating freedom and deepened sense of wisdom.
But will that lead her to true love?
Kelly isn’t done with her temptations –
far from it! One by one, she encounters them all. She learns to
overcome the temptations of dating without
integrity, choosing high risk relationships, getting sexual too
soon, rushing into relationships, settling for less, taking the
lead, aiming for the fairy tale, and sacrificing
her authentic voice. She stumbles through her mistakes and
her heartaches, and celebrates her triumphs with the help of Martha,
who it turns out has a compelling story of her own.
Does Kelly find true love? Does she learn enough from
her mistakes? Does she triumph over all of the temptations? I won’t
give away the story - you’ll have to buy the book to find
out what happens to Kelly, but I promise you it will be well worth
the expense and time.
You can purchase Temptations
of the Single Girl today for less than $16.00. As soon as you receive and read it, your love life will
begin to change by virtue of a heightened awareness of what
it takes to meet and marry a great guy. If you practice
the lessons learned, putting them into action in your dating
life, you will accelerate forward and soon find yourself
with a wonderful guy.
Now, let’s put the cost of the
book into perspective with that kind of benefit. How much did you
pay for your last manicure and pedicure? How much do you spend getting
your hair done – color, cut, style? How much did you spend
on the last hot outfit you wore on a date with a new guy? How about
make-up and jewelry? How much do you spend
in an average year on making yourself look as attractive as possible? If you’re like most women today, you spend anywhere from a
thousand to ten thousand dollars, or more, per year on your outsides.
And it’s important that you do so, isn’t it? But how much do you spend per year on your
insides? How much do you spend
on learning and growth so that you are far better prepared to approach
dating and relationships?
How much have
you spent in the past on therapy to recover from bad relationships
or a divorce?
How much are you willing to spend to educate yourself
about love and relationships so that you stand a far better chance
of doing it right? How much are you willing to spend to empower
yourself to make far better choices of men and to teach yourself
how to guide your relationships in a healthy way?
In case you are still hesitating, let me assure you
that you have nothing to lose and everything to gain because this
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me and tell me how the book has helped you in your quest
for a great relationship. I welcome your success stories! Meanwhile,
I wish for you the fulfillment of self-actualizing and becoming
all that you can be in life. And I wish for you the joy of loving
and being loved by a great guy for a lifetime.
Yours In Success,
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