Are You Focused on Marriage? Is He?
By Nina Atwood
When was the last time you looked for employment? Think about how that search felt. Did you sit at home dreaming about your ideal job and for someone to walk in and offer you bundles of money to do something you love? Or did you send out hundreds of resumes, go on several job interviews, get a couple of second interviews and finally an offer? Most people who spend time and effort in search of something they love to do are successful (in whatever terms they define success).
And you guessed it, dating is the same way. Dating is about being intentional in finding someone you are compatible with. Instead of the job offer, marriage is the end goal in dating. But with the combination of careers and technology-infused, fast-paced lives, is it reasonable to have marriage as an end goal? It is, but it’s vital to communicate early on that marriage is in your plans if that’s the case.
Too many women stick with men who upfront say they are not interested in marriage. Women stay in the hopes that men will change their mind. Although nothing is impossible, it is however, implausible given that he already told you he’s not moving in the direction of matrimony. Don’t suffer unnecessarily; if you make the choice to stay in a relationship in which marriage is off the table, prepare yourself for a future without it.
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1 Comment
1. singleinsg | November 9th, 2010 at 4:18 am
Hmm, I feel that if the woman is supportive of his man in his career, supports him, then marriage bells ring!