Nothing grabs your attention more than having someone you love abruptly exit. It’s emotionally traumatic, meaning that there’s no way to prepare yourself for such a sudden loss, so it hits you on all levels. You’re sad and/or angry, you can’t sleep, you can’t concentrate at work, and you wear out your support network with [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 21st, 2007
Sara writes: “Help! My boyfriend, after a 3 month intense relationship, suddenly backed off. Is there any hope he’ll come back?” Danielle writes: “What can I do to win back the man I love? He broke up with me after two years saying he wasn’t ready for a commitment.” Chris writes: “I’m in love with [...]
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If you do divorce, do so with “due process.” With the exception of physical abuse, all couples benefit from a gradual process toward divorce. Speedy divorces side-step the necessity of that magical relationship remedy: open, honest, compassionate communication. Strange, isn’t it, how someone can be good enough to marry and have two children with, yet [...]
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If you do marry fast, put off having children until you see if it gels. Again, the rush to having children, like the rush to marriage, is like spinning that big roulette wheel. This time, though, the consequences are huge and the children pay the price if your number comes up wrong. Study after study [...]
Continue Reading Add comment November 17th, 2006
Date first, for a considerable period of time, marry later. Why? Because everyone who’s ever fallen in love knows that the first stage of a relationship, the Enchantment stage, doesn’t last! It’s a great beginning for bonding and intimacy, but when it fades, and all those brain love chemicals fade, then we’re faced with the [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment November 16th, 2006
Date someone with character, first and foremost. How do we know that Kevin is lacking in the “character gene”? When Kevin was doing backup in Britney’s band, his girlfriend at the time, Char Jackson, was pregnant with their second child. He quickly dumped her the moment Britney showed romantic interest in him. When Kevin and [...]
Continue Reading 3 comments November 15th, 2006
Oops, she did it, again. Britney Spears is getting divorced in record time, just weeks after giving birth to her second child with husband Kevin Federline. It’s fast and furious and it has generated a media feeding frenzy, just like her marriage to Federline, and just like her 55 hour marriage to her childhood friend, [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment November 14th, 2006
I’ve recently ended a loving, healthy relationship (after three years of dating) due to my partner’s unwillingness to make a long-term commitment. This was someone I deeply loved who was right for me in many ways, and I am struggling to understand why this has happened and what I need to do to go forward. [...]
Continue Reading 2 comments October 26th, 2006
What is the definition of a “rebound relationship”? Is it true they can be unhealthy? - David Rebound relationships occur very shortly after the end of a significant love, and sometimes begin before the end. The problem with a rebound is that it doesn’t allow time for the grieving and healing process to be complete. When [...]
Continue Reading 8 comments October 23rd, 2006
I am currently in a Settle-For Relationship. My problem is I always get into these and don’t have the courage to back out of them so I always get to the commitment part and continue on. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now and I am not happy and I want to [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment October 23rd, 2006
I have been in an on and off relationship for a year and a half and I know it’s not what I want. I’ve started to go out with someone new (only a couple of dates) and I know I need to tell my boyfriend, who in the past has been possessive and jealous. What [...]
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