Turning on the Power of Attraction: Step 3
By Nina Atwood
Get real about your “personal presentation.” At the risk of sounding superficial, I must address one of the most salient aspects of attraction: how you look! Like it or not, in the singles world, you are first judged by your appearance, second by your facial expression, and last by your personality (which takes time to reveal). Those first few impressions make all the difference in whether or not you get the date.
Here’s the truth: if you are height/weight proportionate, have a hairstyle that’s current, and wear clean, pressed clothes in current styles, you’ve pretty much got personal presentation nailed. If you’re wondering if you’re current, don’t ask your close friends – they will mostly likely be too fearful of hurting your feelings to tell you the truth. Instead, do some research in your area and find a salon that does makeovers and ask for an evaluation. Take the feedback to heart – you will feel better about yourself with the changes and you’ll attract others as well.
For those of you who are feeling defensive right now, I encourage you to really consider this. You can’t afford to be indignant about your right to carry 50 pounds of extra weight. While there may be someone who will find you irresistible at that weight, the reality is that huge numbers of people are put off by it. Most importantly, you are jeopardizing your long-term health. So get real and get some help for the extra pounds.
Obviously, you can make yourself look great on the outside, but if you haven’t done your “inner beauty work,” it will be for nothing. While you’re getting your physical makeover, make sure you’re doing the real work of creating a good life and a genuinely positive attitude.
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