As discussed in previous blogs, there is really no reason why two people can’t fall in love even with a significant gap in age. But seeking someone specifically because of the gap in age is not far from seeking someone because of money, looks, or social status. At the end of the day, there’s an [...]
Continue Reading Add comment March 29th, 2010
Dear Nina: I read your book, Temptations of the Single Girl, and wish I would have read that years ago. I’ll be 47 this year, and now that I think I can date better, I’m afraid there won’t be many candidates looking for my age group. What do I do? Where do I meet men? [...]
Continue Reading Add comment February 3rd, 2010
If you’re reading this, you’re probably single and ringing in the New Year wondering what will happen this year: will you be happily in love when 2011 rolls around? Are you in love now and wondering if you’ll be engaged this year? Are you breaking up or divorcing and wondering if you’ll be ready to [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment January 5th, 2010
“The keys to effectiveness in life and business are 1.) self-awareness, 2.) self-mastery, and 3.) being on purpose,” says my Vistage colleague Mary Lore, author of Managing Thought: Are You Living the Life You Intend? Mary says we all have the ability to do these three things, and we can through managing thought. Often we focus on [...]
Continue Reading Add comment May 18th, 2008
“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.” – Mother Theresa Okay, so maybe we can’t always be the shining example of love that was Mother [...]
Continue Reading Add comment April 13th, 2008
If you have completed your visioning exercises (see previous blogs: 2008 Intentions, 2007 Reflections, Current State, Life Vision Statement, and 2008 Vision Statement), then you are ready to set SMART goals for 2008. What is a SMART goal? S = Specific M = Measurable A = Action-oriented, achievable R = Results-oriented T = Time-based A SMART [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment January 14th, 2008
This exercise is similar to the life vision exercise, narrowed down to the current year. If you imagine yourself at the end of 2008, what will you be celebrating? You might frame it up as The Seven F’s: What will these seven significant life categories look like to you one year from today? (write a mini vision statement for [...]
Continue Reading Add comment January 9th, 2008
If you have never done this exercise, it is one that is powerful in setting the stage for achievement of your long term life goals. This one requires a calm, quiet state of mind, so carve out some time, do the things that relax you, have paper and pen on hand. Now, ask yourself this question [...]
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Before setting new goals, a powerful step is to acknowledge the current state of your life, personally and professionally. For this step, do some writing about how you see your life right now; add or subtract categories that are relevant for you: Spiritual Health Work Education Personal growth Family Friends Connection and love Passions (pursuits, hobbies, future [...]
Continue Reading Add comment January 3rd, 2008
Often people set goals for the new year without stopping to reflect on the past year. The problem with that approach is that lessons learned are often not carried forward, so you wind up repeating the past year’s mistakes. This exercise helps you access lessons learned so that you achieve emotional completion for the past year. Carve [...]
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It’s almost the beginning of a New Year – 2008 – and most people like to set new goals for the new year. With my clients (individuals and executives) over the years, I’ve found that following a process to clear the decks from the past year first, then setting new intentions for the new year, gives [...]
Continue Reading Add comment December 31st, 2007
Single during the holidays can be fun, but for some, it’s not, no matter how hard you try. If you’re recovering from a divorce or break-up of a long-term relationship, or another life loss, you may be vulnerable to the holiday blues – a temporary period of depressed mood. The holiday blues, while no fun, will [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment December 17th, 2007
This past week, my friend George moved into a brand new house with his bride of two weeks. George and his new wife are blissful, looking forward to a life together of dancing, cooking on the grill, spending time with their kids and grandchildren, and loving each other. Just a little over a year ago, [...]
Continue Reading Add comment October 8th, 2007
Sheila complained often to her friends, “I don’t have time to date! Between my career, my friendships, and my family obligations, there’s nothing left over.” She isn’t the only one with this battle cry. Like most singles, Sheila has filled every available minute of her life with activity. Not a bad thing, but it begs [...]
Continue Reading Add comment October 2nd, 2007
Does money buy happiness? Most of us have heard all of our lives that it doesn’t. Now, research shows us that it’s true – money doesn’t buy long-term happiness. It turns out that gaining large sums of money is similar to taking drugs – it temporarily stimulates the pleasure centers of the brain. But in the long run, [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment September 17th, 2007
If you found yourself in the blogs on love addiction, take heart! It is possible to recover and find a much healthier path in life. Here’s a basic checklist for recovery: Get real and get serious about your life: acknowledge that you have a problem with relationships Do an inventory of past relationships and look for [...]
Continue Reading Add comment September 10th, 2007
Neurotic daters, take heart! It is possible to change this pattern and to reap the rewards of a much more fulfilling life as a single while you search for that someone special. The very first step is to make the rock-solid commitment to be self-caring first, other-caring second. Like the flight attendant tells you on [...]
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Do you blame yourself for whatever goes wrong in your relationships? No matter what happens, do you second-guess yourself, worry that you said or did the wrong things and caused the other person to leave, break up, or cheat? If so, you may be a neurotic dater. What does that mean? A neurotic dater puts [...]
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Understading and awareness are powerful first steps necessary for any life change. But if you stop there, so does your life. Action moves things forward; action creates real change. Nothing, even the deepest levels of understanding and awarness, substitutes for action. If you’re not happy with your dating life, get into action. Use these SinglesCoach [...]
Continue Reading Add comment August 30th, 2007
Would you like to have a higher EIQ? If so, you can, but it is a process over time that requires your commitment to growth. If you languish in your comfort zone, you won’t grow and your EIQ will not grow. If you want to develop your EIQ, do the thing that stretches you rather than [...]
Continue Reading Add comment August 16th, 2007
You’re sitting at Starbucks. Across from you is an attractive person. You’re engaged in the conversation. Now what? If you’re dating smart, you’re focused on more than the words being spoken, more than the person’s face, hair, body, and muscle tone. If you’re dating smart, you’re focusing on what’s not being said. You’re listing carefully, [...]
Continue Reading Add comment August 15th, 2007
You haven’t had a date in three years. You haven’t attended a party or other social event in two years. You work, go home, watch television or spend time on the computer, go to sleep, get up the next day and do it all over again. In short, you’re in the singles rut. A friend [...]
Continue Reading Add comment August 1st, 2007
What in your life is blocking you from love? Keri thought she was doing everything possible to attract a good man into her life, but somehow it wasn’t happening. Then she asked a coach to help her discover what wasn’t working. Acting on a hunch, the coach asked to see her home and what she [...]
Continue Reading Add comment July 30th, 2007
How does love show up in your life now? Are you lonely, searching for a soul mate and instead finding losers and misfits? Are you anxious for that moment of letting go, breathing deeply, and finally feeling loved? Are you discouraged by the number of truly bad dates you’ve had? Are you discouraged by the lack [...]
Continue Reading 1 comment July 27th, 2007
Ever hear the expression “practice makes perfect?” Well, it’s not true. Only perfect practice makes perfect. Champion athletes often use visualization processes in which they see themselves making the perfect shot or scoring the touchdown. They visualize themselves practicing perfectly, feel the success of the moment, and thus actually carve out neural pathways for success. [...]
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